Sep 29, 2008

Tender Mercies

Yesterday was our ward's Primary Program. Ali was assigned to give a talk on the May theme which is, Heavenly Father planned for me to come to a family. "The family is central to the Creator's plan for the eternal destiny of His children" ("Proclomation," paragraph 1). Trevor and I asked her to start working on her talk by herself and then we would help her elaborate. So, she came to me a week or so ago and handed me a small piece of paper. This is what was written on it:

A couple of months ago my aunt died. I was so sad that I never got to say goodbye. But I know that when I pass away, that I will be able to say "Hello" to her. I am so glad that I know that families are together forever. I couldn't imagine how sad I would be if I didn't know that.

While I was reading those words, the tears began to flow. I think she was surprised by that. I reassured her that my emotions were already on the surface and her words just made them overflow. Needless to say, she didn't end up including this in her talk. She was worried that she would get too emotional to talk. I was so grateful for these words that she wrote down. I had begun to wonder if my children were missing their Aunt Ginger. They seemed so unaffected by her passing. I know that they are each dealing with this loss in their own way. Thank goodness for the answers that the Gospel offers in these trying times. It is wonderful to know that my children know that families can be together forever. We will see Ginger again and what a joyous reunion that will be.

7 comments:

Alan and Brandi Cotton said...

Yup, she got me going too! That was so sweet! It must be so rewarding to see Ali's testimony so strong at her age. She really DOES know the truth! I know plenty of people way older than her that know so much less. Ali sure has some wonderful parents!

Kate said...

Incredibly moving letter that Ali wrote. I've experienced the same with my children's journal writings about their aunt Ginger. I've been deeply touched by their pure, simple, love, faith and testimony.

I've seen my children coping all in a different way. My friend recently relayed this incident to me. Hayley was at a play day with a friend and got real quite, sad, and then started crying. When the mother asked what was wrong, Hayley told her she missed her Aunt Ginger. Made me think of all the play days she had in Ginger's care and how much love she has for her. We are all mourning in our own, unique way.

summerk said...

Wow; that is so neat to see Ali's testimony growing... and firm! She's amazing... you can tell her I said so. :) It's because you and Trevs are such great parents!

Natalie said...

I am not so sure that Trevor and I have much to do with it. I am realizing more and more that our children enter this earth more valiant than we know.

Stake Camp Directors said...

Not a day goes by that we are not reminded -usually by our children- of the peace that the gospel brings into our lives.

Jonesy said...

Hi Natalie - Thank you so much for calling yesterday - I am sorry I had to go so quickly. Today is Heather's b-day and it was my last minute gift buying trip. But we are doing fine. Of course we miss Debbie and the thought of the holidays without her - well I just haven't gone there yet. But we (of course) had some very uplifting experiences in her last few days and of course know what we know that makes this part of life bearable. Thanks again for thinking of us - stop by anytime !

Gabriela Hull said...

Natalie,
I don't know if you remember me but I do remember you and your family. This is Gabby Hull from BYU. I wanted to let you know that I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet sister Ginger. My friend, Mary Henshaw Olsen, told me about Ginger's passing. (She was in Trevor's ward growing up) I have since found your blog and I wanted to let you know that I pray for your family.

You have such a beautiful family! I can't believe that Ali is 12. We hope you continue to feel the Savior's peace and love.